What My Father Gave Me Edited by Melanie Little
|November 21, 2010||Posted by Stephanie Price Evans under Canadian, Memoir, Non-fiction|
What My Father Gave Me is a compilation of personal stories composed by real women sharing the true grit of their own father-daughter relationships. Seven women share their remarkable experiences with their fathers during their formative teenage years. Each story shared in this book is different from the next and each is profoundly moving in its own unique way.
Lisa Moore shares the story of her father’s early death and its affect on her at 16 years of age. Susan Olding describes how her father’s alcoholism affected her own choices during her teenage years and eventually taught her to make different decisions than her father. Saleema Nawaz shares a tale of an absent father whose presence she is constantly aware of and frustrated by in her very own features. Cathy Stonehouse courageously tells the tale of how she dealt with her father’s abuse by creating two personalities for herself during her teen years and how she began to resolve the many fragments of herself by allowing the two personalities to agree on one truth about the abuse. Shannon McFerran speaks of the conflicted heart of a daughter who wants to please both her teenaged friends and her father, but discovers that bearing responsibility for someone else’s happiness is not a burden that one has ownership over. Jessica Raya shares her surprise in finding both a father figure where she least expected one and the roots of a self-confidence planted in that relationship.
This book was a phenomenal read—I could not put it down. That means a lot coming from a mom of twins currently going through a sleep disturbance phase. When you choose a book over sleep, you know the book has got to possess some sort of magic.
The magic I found in the pages of this book was the compelling truth with which these women wrote their stories. There is true beauty in a woman who is willing to be vulnerable enough to share her innermost thoughts and fears about intimate moments with her father with a collective unknown audience. While reading this book ,I felt that there were no stones left unturned, nothing left unsaid and no regrets in having shared.
Well-written and honestly constructed, this book is an unnerving and refreshing source of encouragement for every woman who has ever dealt with the intense human frailty and passion found in the relationship between daughters and their fathers.